Make love not war: Why I choose not to be an aggressive family lawyer

Make love not war: Why I choose not to be an aggressive family lawyer

Is she a bulldog? I want a family lawyer who is not going to let the other side get away with it.
I want an aggressive lawyer that will stand up for my rights!
Is she a lawyer that can stand up to the male lawyer on the other side?

These are not unusual requests that I receive as a family lawyer, especially a female family lawyer. 

I am quick however to explain to my clients that an aggressive approach will likely result in:

  • An inability to reach a settlement by agreement, putting you straight on the path to a litigated outcome;
  • A rapid increase to your legal fees due to unnecessary and inflammatory communication between solicitors and court costs;  
  • Likely to jeopardise your co-parenting relationship, which will have an effect on your children.  

Whilst making a conscious decision to not practise as an aggressive lawyer, it does not mean that as a family lawyer that I will not advocate strongly for my client. 

I have been a family lawyer for 12 years and time and time again I have seen how putting a position across in a persuasive way, rather a combative manner, is more effective and can achieve a resolution and positive result for my client.  

For this reason, I encourage a holistic, “bigger picture” focus, right from our first meeting.  

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