Make love not war: Why I choose not to be an aggressive family lawyer
These are not unusual requests that I receive as a family lawyer, especially a female family lawyer.
I am quick however to explain to my clients that an aggressive approach will likely result in:
- An inability to reach a settlement by agreement, putting you straight on the path to a litigated outcome;
- A rapid increase to your legal fees due to unnecessary and inflammatory communication between solicitors and court costs;
- Likely to jeopardise your co-parenting relationship, which will have an effect on your children.
Whilst making a conscious decision to not practise as an aggressive lawyer, it does not mean that as a family lawyer that I will not advocate strongly for my client.
I have been a family lawyer for 12 years and time and time again I have seen how putting a position across in a persuasive way, rather a combative manner, is more effective and can achieve a resolution and positive result for my client.
For this reason, I encourage a holistic, “bigger picture” focus, right from our first meeting.